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Victim of domestic violence in need of financial help, please read

Anonymous started this conversation
Mar 30, 2007

I left my son's abusive father in October of 2006 and have been supporting my son and myself for these past months.  I have employment however with the cost of hiring a lawyer and lack of recieving child support I have created quite a debt.  I am sinking further and further in the hole as I try to catch up on bills and legal matters. I tried to go to court without legal representation and quickly found that an appointed attorney was not beneficial to my needs.  His father hired a lawyer that got him off  of the assault charges (of which I had pictures).  I have been in an undisclosed location because the law enforcement officers that worked my case feel that in light of his actions and threats he is a dangerous man to both our child and me.  I felt I had to hire a lawyer as he was trying to take custody of our son.  This was not an option for me, so here I am in debt beyond any repair that I am capable of fixing. The social service department has turned me away because I am employed, I have no credit to use for loan or credit card applications. My situation gets worse everyday.  I do not have rent for this month.  I have exhausted all of my resources (I have nothing left to sell). Please help me get back on my feet. I will be fine once this hole is filled.  I have nothing except love of my child to help me through this time in our lives. He sometimes asks  to do things that we simply cannot afford, I should be able to buy him an ice cream when he asks (which is rare because even my 6 year old understands that we have NO money).  I am not one to ever pull the "help me" card, but noe I feel that since I am that kind of person I have really hurt myself and my son by being too proud to ask for help and now it may be too late. Thank you for reading my story and plea. I know there are people out there in much more need that I but I hope somewhere there is someone who can help me. 

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mafy   in reply to blakeshope
May 12, 2012
I am trying to support my daughter after leaving her father .and its just imposible. No one cares to help :'(
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Abatteredwoman
Mar 13, 2012
Hello, i am also in an abusive marriage, i have 2 school aged children, i lost my mother recently and it feels like i have no one to turn to.. Its a task looking for financial assistance, i just dont know what to do next.
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ButterflyDetoured
Dec 20, 2011

Gosh, I really understand what your going through. I'm in the same boat. I fled to another state to a Domestic Violence Shelter from my abusive violence relationship. I'm very grateful to the shelter who allowed me to stay there, until my unemployment kicked in and I was able to find housing. It's so hard now where I'm at, like yourself, I used up all my resources. Unemployment doesn't pay as much as the two jobs I had in the state where I fled from. I cry all the time, because I have kids, who lives had to alter because I thought he loved me. I'm grateful to be in a safe place, but times I feel like I should have stayed and chanced my life, instead of living in a state where I don't know no one and can't get a job unless you know someone. I'm trying to stay above waters, but each day I'm drowing in debt. I always questioned why people give up on life due to financial situation, I now see.. But I'm staying strong, because I know one day, this too shall pass. I hope you well in life and just no that you are not alone.

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shakti8
Apr 15, 2011
Go on a debt management plan, You did not choose to be violent and destabilize family life. If anyone can justify debt you can. Just go on a plan and make sure you pay the rent! all you need is warm house and healthy food. Odd treats are ok but streamline finances and get on top of the situation. This is the aftermath of domestic abuse, but don't forget what an amazing thing you have done!!
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LookOnTheBrightSide
Apr 4, 2010
 in response to blakeshope...   Hello how are you getting along? I have been traveling to gather support and promote peace and non-violence.
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LookOnTheBrightSide
Feb 18, 2010
 in response to carable...   

Google search for churches, interns, colleges, any non profit org. Just cuz they are non profit they are still a biz and have to pay for services.

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carable
Feb 9, 2010
 in response to LookOnTheBrightSide...   I am in desperate need of some houses to clean so I can save some money for a car to get my kids around and myself back and forth to the doctor. If there is a great church around I would love to go! Any suggestions?
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LookOnTheBrightSide
Feb 9, 2010
 in response to LookOnTheBrightSide...   stay close to me, I will help you,
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LookOnTheBrightSide
Feb 9, 2010
 in response to carable...   

My best friend is nearby. This is amazing. IS there anything u immediately need?

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carable
Feb 9, 2010
 in response to LookOnTheBrightSide...   I am in Colorado, Denver metro area
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LookOnTheBrightSide
Feb 9, 2010
 in response to carable...   What area are you living? (state)
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carable
Feb 9, 2010

Hi,

I just left my abuser less than 2 months ago with nothing but the clothes on my back. I have no job and am disabled and have no idea where this month's rent is coming from! I feel as if maybe I should have just stayed and taken it! At least I knew what to expect and had a roof over my head. I was in a shelter that promised to help but after 30 days they tell you your on your own. What are my kids and I supposed to do? I keep praying for my SSI to go through quickly, but so far no good.....Please help! 

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LookOnTheBrightSide
Jan 1, 2010

Hello, I would like to know how you are doing.

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me2U
Jun 1, 2009

Try this link maybe it can help. 

 

http://media.allstate.com/categories/7-news-releases/releases/4338-new-grants-fund-economic

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blakeshope
Feb 28, 2008

I know how you feel, I am in an abusive relationship now where my son has to watch. He is only 11 months old. I have a vehicle to leave a place to go but no money to get there. (500) miles away. You feel like you could just die because you have no light at the end of the tunnel. All just because of money! and there are people out there right now buying up thousand dollar shoes, purses, or crazy amounts of money on hair and nails and all you want to do is buy your kid an icecream and you cant i understand just don't give up I haven't theres gotta be someone to help us, someone has to care!

 

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